The Virgin Suicides (Sofia Coppola)
Yes, that's right, I'm starting with another Sofia flick. Deal with it. Unlike Marie Antoinette, The Virgin Suicides doesn't really include food as a secondary character, but it's not devoid of it either. Based off of Jeffrey Eugenides' fantastic novel of the same name, The Virgin Suicides is centered around the Lolita-like, blonde Lisbon sisters and their inevitable demise. There is such a normalcy during an early dinner scene and you just want to be there to pass a plate of ham in exchange for peas and mashed potatoes, because it just feels so comfortable. It doesn't get much normal than peas and potatoes people! But don't forget the little basement party the Lisbon parents throw for their daughters in order to get them more acquainted with the opposite sex, back in the 70's soda was pop, so try to find some classic glass bottle Cokes. And of course no party is complete without that giant bowl of punch, with plenty of pineapple juice. Popcorn makes a good, salty party snack to add to the basement bash effect.
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (Michel Gondry)
This movie is everywhere at once, it's simply complicated, but beautiful, and the two main characters (Joel and Clementine) are very, very human. There is not alot you can do other than sit back and watch everything happen, but when there are moments of rest you should join in by sipping bottled-beer and potentially old Chinese food, like any stable human would. Even if you don't know what you're eating, it's nice to be around people you love when eating it, even if they won't be there forever.
Note: the "Not Your Birthday Cake" is in fact brownies.